Psychotherapy for infertility and fertility treatment
Has the dream of having a child turned into a struggle or a race against time?
Psychotherapy and support for you who are experiencing infertility or undergoing fertility treatment.
Infertility can affect far more than the desire to have a child. Waiting, treatments, hope, and disappointment can affect your relationship with yourself, your body, your relationships, and your everyday life.
Perhaps you have become good at functioning on the outside, while inside you are experiencing restlessness, grief, frustration, or a feeling of losing your footing.
With me, there is space for the full emotional landscape that can accompany a fertility journey.
Sessions are available in Espergærde, North Zealand, and online.
Has fertility suddenly taken over your whole life?
Maybe it started with a big hope and the belief that it would all work out. But the months go by. The tests begin. Maybe you start fertility treatment. You learn new words, keep track of dates, hormones, scans, and pregnancy tests, and suddenly it feels as though the desire to have a child has taken over everything.
Maybe you have become good at functioning on the outside, while inside you are experiencing restlessness, grief, or a feeling of losing your footing.
It can be difficult to see other people getting pregnant. Difficult to hear about pregnancies, babies, and due dates. Maybe you feel envy or jealousy and then feel guilty because you can’t simply be happy for other people. Maybe you’re tired of hoping. Maybe you’re afraid of what will happen if it doesn’t work out. Or maybe you have simply become so used to being in fertility treatment that you have almost forgotten how you felt before it all began.
There is nothing wrong with you. It makes sense that this affects you.
Infertility affects more than the desire to have a child
Infertility and fertility treatment can be a prolonged emotional strain. Hope and disappointment may alternate again and again, while you may also be trying to keep up with work, relationships, and everyday life.
It can affect how you experience yourself, your body, and your future. Some people experience grief, anger, helplessness, guilt, or a feeling of losing control. Others feel a constant sense of unease or become increasingly preoccupied with everything related to fertility.
It is not a sign that you cannot cope. It is a sign that you are going through something that can be difficult to carry alone.
You don’t have to hide when you’re struggling
Infertility can bring up many different emotions – grief, frustration, envy, anger, guilt, hope, and helplessness. Some days, it can feel like it takes up everything. On other days, you can almost forget about it. You may even surprise yourself with your own reactions.
You don’t need to sort through your feelings before you come. In therapy, we can explore together what happens within you when these feelings are activated, and what your emotions may be telling you about what matters to you.
There also needs to be room for the feelings you don’t always feel comfortable saying out loud.
I understand the emotional landscape of fertility treatment
I have been through six years of fertility treatment myself, and I therefore know infertility both from my own life and from many years of working with women going through fertility treatment.
I know the hope and the waiting. The disappointments. The negative tests. And the feeling of having to pick yourself up once again and hope that next time will be different.
My own experience is not what makes me a professional. That comes from my education and many years of working with people. But it has given me a particular understanding of the emotional landscape you are facing.
I have worked with people since 2011 and today work as an emotion-focused psychotherapist, supporting people with, among other things, grief, stress, and infertility.
Signe, 32 years
It was only about surviving
“Above all, Jessie has helped me learn to understand myself better during a difficult time, where my greatest wish is for a pregnancy to occur. I am very grateful that I acknowledged to myself that I needed support to be in the crisis it is for me to be involuntarily childless. Having Jessie with me on my journey makes me a better person toward myself and everyone around me.”
Rie, 38 years
No thoughts or feelings were wrong
“I have never been good at asking for help, but I could not continue feeling the way I did. In my sessions with Jessie, I was met with recognition and understanding of the feelings and thoughts I have, and with the assurance that they are completely legitimate to have. Our conversations have been a safe space for me, where there is understanding, nothing is stupid to talk about, and no feelings or thoughts are wrong. Jessie has challenged me and given me exercises and tools, so that I am better equipped to handle the feelings and thoughts that arise on my fertility journey.
I can give my warmest recommendation to a programme with Jessie.”
Sofie, 36 years
I no longer recognised myself
“Jessie helped me return to the person I was before my world fell apart. She pushed my boundaries of what I believed I was personally capable of and has not only helped me through my fertility journey, but also with things I struggled with even before such as being very rigid in my thinking and highly control-driven, which I was and probably always will be, just a little less now. I have no doubt that one of the very best decisions I made during my fertility journey was to start working with Jessie.”